Monday, November 21, 2011

Dating and Marriage Tips; Feminine Appeal

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Hello cupcake! In the marriage market, a man who's looking for a WIFE (and the future mother of his children,) isn't looking for a trashy girl. 

He's not looking for a girl who fills her Facebook/MySpace profile with those super-sexy sort of pics, either. 

You know the ones I'm referring to; trout-pout, eyes that 'stink sex,' cleavage right in your face, bikini top and mini-skirt....

A high value man never wants a woman like that, and he doesn't want to be be constantly reminded that a woman wears THONG underwear, either (or doesn't!)

Now, lovely, men definitely don't want us to go back to wearing Victorian style bathing suits, swimming stockings and clothing like that. But they do feel that women are definitely more appealing and fascinating if they dress more modestly.

And that something is left to the imagination. 

Remember too, not ALL the good men are taken. In fact, your King may be out there somewhere, waiting patiently for his Queen to take her rightful place. However, you must position yourself well.
And go out there and find him. :-)

Some advice for married women;

A man doesn't want a woman to become so busy being a mother to his children that she forgets to be a WIFE. The woman who believes that the achievement of motherhood has given her a halo, which will also dazzle her husband, isn't fooling anybody except herself.

Few men select their wives simply because they'll make good mothers. They fall in love with these adorable creatures who they hope will never LOSE their feminine appeal. Maternal concern is a noble thing, sure, but in its place. 

It also gets pretty DULL for a man if motherhood absorbs a woman to the exclusion of everything else!

A man wants a wife who can be seductive, as well. A wife who can be;

The 'milk and honey' which sweetens his life.

The 'wine and caviar' which gives his life some spice and piquancy. ;-)

Ensuring that you raise healthy and well-behaved children is important (and any good father will be proud of that.) However, a man doesn't like to feel that his whole household, and life, is revolving around his children. 

It makes him feel left out. 

A husband certainly doesn't like to feel that his wife's whole interest lies in parenting, or in 'keeping house.' 

Furthermore, if wives tried to keep their 'feminine mystique' more often, and show more respect for their husband's (and own,) privacy, preferences, and freedom love's dream would not so often turn into a nightmare. 

It's also the 'Siamese twin' existence that many married couples impose on each other and that drives them to distraction (or destruction!)

**The art of pleasing isn't just acquired by experience or study. To possess this precious feminine art (which should be the ambition of all women,) it's indispensable that you cultivate inner beauty. 

An 'ugly' woman (a woman with little to no inner beauty,) will in vain torture her imagination, and spend her money, trying to become desirable. Yet it's not the fitness instructors, the hair-dressers, nor the image-consultants themselves that can make a pretty woman of her.

The surest means for a woman to acquire and preserve the gift of attracting and being attractive is to be (if she can,) always;

Young (in mind, heart and spirit.) 






In good humor. 

She will be forever charming. :-)

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Some more words of advice for wives/soon-to-be wives;

Being married should feel like a PRIVILEGE to a man, not a prison.

A home should feel like a HAVEN to a man, not a reformatory.

If you're not careful, marriage can transform a relationship from a pleasure into a DUTY, and a luxury into a necessity. Therefore, do all that you can to keep the excitement in the relationship, and to keep things interesting.

Have regular date nights, away from the children, too.

Nevertheless, even though a woman should be a 'guiding star' of her husband's life, she should inspire him to be a leader. A man's POWER lies in being active, progressive and defensive. 

A real man's also doer, a discoverer and a defender. 

Never make the mistake of not allowing your man to FEEL or behave like a man, or of making him think that you're his whole planetary system. 

I finally want to say, as a feminine woman, careful of her beauty, and who respects herself, regularly give yourself PEDICURES. For more difficult problems with your feet, you should visit a chiropodist. 

Having pretty, well-maintained feet is an extreme necessity for a woman, even after your married. You should take care of your feet and toe nails by regularly washing, brushing, filing or trimming them.

Always keep your toenails short and rounded, and keep them as neat as your hands. 

If a woman doesn't do all of this for the sake of the one she loves, she should do it for the sake of the art itself. It's also quite shameful for a pretty woman to have a thick callouses on her foot - or a corn or a bunion. 

Much love,
Melina xxx

PS; During the course of our lives we may have husbands who we consider as our 'best friends.' Nevertheless, there is One who's the very best friend a girl can have, and could EVER have. He's One who sticks to you 'closer than a brother' (Proverbs 18:24.) 

His name is Jesus Christ. 

Jesus Christ is MY best friend, and no matter whether you're single or married, you too can become a good friend of Jesus. Jesus even says about those that know and love Him; "I do not call you servants.... I have called you My friends" (John 15:15.)

How do you become a friend of Jesus?

* Believe in Him.
* Repent (be truly sorry for the things you've done wrong, and turn away from all your bad ways.)
* Receive Jesus into your life.

Jesus also promises us; "He that believes in me, as the scripture has said, out of his heart shall flow rivers of living water." (John 7:38.)

In case you're wondering, JESUS CHRIST is the 'living water' and the only thing that can bring life to the soul (eternal life.) 

By drinking the living water, you can live forever, and never thirst again! 

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  1. Hey Melina,

    I know this is off topic from the entry, but I have noticed (as well as many others) that you are missing from facebook. I am glad to see this entry posted today on here- as I am hoping this means that nothing major is wrong. Anyway, I just wanted to say that I hope the facebook thing is just a glitch. I also hope all is well with you and that we will see you on facebook again soon.

    - Patricia.

  2. Hi Patricia!

    I did leave a reason why on the wall. I've actually stopped using facebook altogether. Not only was I unhappy about the 'iffy' privacy aspects (which I was never really aware of until now,) but how facebook owns and can sell your content.

    They say in their terms;

    "You grant us a non-exclusive, transferable, sub-licensable, royalty-free, worldwide license to use any IP content that you post on or in connection with Facebook (IP License). This IP License ends when you delete your IP content or your account unless your content has been shared with others, and they have not deleted it."

    "By posting user content to any part of the site, you automatically grant, and you represent and warrant that you have the right to grant, to the company an irrevocable, perpetual, non-exclusive, transferable, fully paid, worldwide license (with the right to sublicense) to use, copy, publicly perform, publicly display, reformat, translate, excerpt (in whole or in part) and distribute such user content for any purpose, commercial, advertising, or otherwise, on or in connection with the site or the promotion thereof, to prepare derivative works of, or incorporate into other work."

    Basically, anything that any user posts on their facebook account and on their facebook pages/groups is up 'for grabs!'

  3. Thanks for the reply Melina. I guess your post listing why you left facebook disappeared when you closed your account. I am really glad to know everything is well though and I had no idea they 'owned' anything you posted. I didn't think it was that severe! I will have to re-think keeping my own account. I don't use it much already.

    Anyway, I am glad we can still find you on your blogs and will let everyone know in the sisterhood if they haven't figured it out yet.

    Thanks a lot for the explanation and information!


  4. Hi Melina,
    Loved your article. Can you expand on this for me?

    'However, you must position yourself well.
    And go out there and find him. :-)'

    By that, do you mean, putting yourself out there and letting him find you? I personally don't belive a woman should chase a man! It is not what our feminine nature intended us to do!
    Your thoughts? xx

  5. @ Patricia; thanks for understanding, lovely. I also didn't think that my posts would be automatically deleted from the wall when I closed my account!

    I guess that's a good thing, however, considering how they want to 'own' our content (including photos!)

    Please do drop by again, Patricia, and let me know how you are. xx

    @ Giovanna; thanks for the show of appreciation, doll!

    What I mean by 'position yourself well. And go out there and find him,' basically means that if we want to find our 'Kings' (high value, WORTHY men,) then we must become 'Queens' (high value, worthy women) who know our own worth, and present ourselves accordingly! :-)

    The 'position yourself well/go out there and find him part' will never entail chasing men, which goes against everything I stand for as a feminine 'YIN' woman.

    I agree with you totally that chasing men is not what our feminine natures intended us to do!

    It does mean, however, that if you're single and looking for Mr. Right, you should get OUT of the house and go to the places where you can meet quality men.

    Nevertheless, going to bars and nightclubs isn't positioning yourself well.


  6. So where are the places outside of bars and nightclubs to position yourself? Im very curious as well! Thank you:)

  7. Hi, Melina! Just love your articles and wanted to congrats you!!

    I think also is very important to keep your attention awake on you feminine nature no matter how your life gets complicated, getting married and becoming a responsable mother. This the most attractive thing in a woman, the way she enjoys her femininity, her beauty.

    Thank you for your work xx

  8. Hello Irina!

    Thank you for your well wishes.

    Yes, femininity is the most attractive thing in a woman. :-)

    I also agree with you that a woman must stay conscious of her femininity - no matter what's happening in her life.

    We must make time to cultivate/nurture our femininity!

    Please do drop by again, sometime.

    Melina xx

  9. Hello Melina! I just found out about your blog, and it is amazing how much we agree on things. I'm nineteen years old from the Ivory coast, and being feminine is endoctrinated in me, in my culture. I also love your take on inner beauty; i see more than just the body in people and believe they do the same with me. There's a lot more to people than physical aspects, and any women judging others on these aspects truly are missing on a lot of amazing people! With all that I won't deny that sometimes I don't have issues with my body; I'm not very curvy and I have a straight body type so sometimes I wish I had curves and was bigger

  10. Hi anon!

    I'm glad to hear that you agree with me on things, and that femininity has been 'indoctrinated' into you!

    As for your lean body type, remember some guys like slender bodies! You must have the basic 'model' figure. :-)