Tuesday, July 12, 2011

The Art of Being a Woman - Fulfilling The Feminine Role


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 Much of the effort in becoming a feminine and ideal woman is in discovering who and WHAT you are, as well as what kind of woman you really want to be - your authentic self. 

However, dove, this can be a source of conflict in this modern society because the views of the feminine role have become muddled!  

Your view of the feminine role is also likely to be quite different from other women. And it's rare in a group of women for everyone to agree on what makes an ideal woman. Only YOU can discover what's ideal for you - the real you.

In addition, you can't just blindly accept the feminine role that you were conditioned by your mother to fill, or that others tried to condition you to fill. You must discover it for yourself, lovely, by learning the art of being a woman. You have your OWN path to follow.

Be your own woman, an independent woman, and don’t allow peer pressure to force you into an inauthentic role!

You will need to try on for size everything YOURSELF; seeking the most appropriate expression of yourself, as an individual. You must also build the courage to express yourself authentically as a woman - in your looks, your personality and your character.

Women today rely strongly on cosmetics and glamour techniques as ways of being feminine, in the belief that femininity is largely a matter of OUTWARD appearance and form. From the vantage point of a feminine woman, there are so many different styles dressing as a 'feminine and ideal woman,' so many different looks in hair and makeup.... 

And they're all important.

In addition, these things make the art of being a woman fun *smile.* However, true femininity isn't a mask or a costume to be put on each day to impress others (except for those women who are unable to accept their gender.) And the truly feminine and ideal woman has developed her feminine capacities to the fullest.

And has accepted and embraced the FEMININE approach to life.

A feminine and ideal woman may use cosmetics a lot, and sheath herself in glamour on occasion, but she doesn't think of these as more than external adornments, lovely. Furthermore, her real femininity lies at the core of her personality, and it will respond warmly only to genuine masculinity and to high value men. Not to half-men or abusers or players!

In addition, true beauty comes from the INSIDE. It can’t be found beneath a load of cosmetics and surgical alterations. When you recognize that you’re a beautiful woman on the inside, you’ll broadcast that awareness on the outside.

You're beautiful, dove!

In order to perfect the art of being a woman, and in order to clarify and accept the feminine role for yourself, you must have (or find,) some source of male approval. A woman can be truly feminine and ideal only by giving and receiving honest responses in her associations with men.

However, in order to elicit a response from men, a positive response, the sad business of being blatantly "sexy" or "man crazy" merely describes the frantic efforts of a woman to gain the reassurance she has failed to receive at home.

Naturally, a FATHER is the best male figure to offer male approval to a woman, and can help out a great deal in the early years of adolescence. A father can also appreciate a daughter's efforts to become/be beautiful and ideal woman, and give her the masculine admiration she so desperately needs.

Exposed to all kinds of threats to our feminine integrity, if we had fathers who called us sweet nicknames (such as "princess,") and gave us a feeling of being precious, we'll generally live our lives relatively unscathed. With a feeling of our own WORTH that others can't help but respect.

A LACK of this important contact can have devastating effects! The father who's too busy (or too uninterested) to notice his daughter, or who reacts with heavy disapproval toward her, will find her trying to satisfy her needs, prematurely (or even promiscuously,) with other males.

It will be a futile and tragic effort, dove; unless a woman gains a clear appreciation of herself as a feminine and ideal woman - a woman aware of her personal strengths and POWER (instead of depending solely on the reflections that she sees in the eyes of men.)

**Not all of us had supportive and encouraging dad's growing up. That's why we may have to find a source of male approval elsewhere (from a high value male, of course.)

However, during the initial explorations into the art of being a woman, and the feminine role, a father is the biggest man in a female's life.

Nevertheless, if you don't love yourself INDEPENDENTLY (of the approval of men,) and if you've failed to build self-confidence, cupcake, you'll feel that you must, at all costs, attract some sort of masculine attention in order to live with yourself.

You'll also find yourself acting (and being) DESPERATE, instead of operating as a self-assured and feminine woman!

Your image of yourself is the CORE of your feminine personality. Unless you genuinely like and respect yourself as a feminine and ideal woman, others will not really like and respect you (although they may pretend to in order to get what they want from you.)

Accept FULL responsibility for your life. Don’t live as a 'Patsy,' a doormat, a sheep, or a victim. Stop giving away your feminine power!

In the art of being a woman, you must accept that you alone are the master 'creatix' of your life, and that no one is coming to live it for you. Furthermore, take responsibility for your own financial future.
 
OWN and embrace your femininity and power!

KEEP your heart open. Regardless of how badly you may have been hurt in the past, keep your heart open. You’re actually a lot stronger than you think. And the rewards of LOVE far outweigh the risks of being hurt again. You’re here to express love, to give and receive love, not to live in fear.

Embrace your sexuality consciously. You and you alone must decide the role that sex will play in your life, and thus learn about yourself as a woman, as a feminine personality. If you want it and enjoy it with your man, let that be enough!

Different women will have widely varying opinions on what kind of sexual expression they personally prefer as wives. But the commonality is that they consciously decide and accept what's right for them, regardless of how other people feel about it.

Sex before you're really READY for it, may hamper the development of your feminine role by curtailing other important lessons. It's also your femininity, rather than your femaleness that you're trying to cultivate.

Become WISE; as a woman, you're naturally highly intuitive, so work on deepening your ability to trust that intuition! Keep learning and growing, life (and the art of being a woman) is your university :-) 

In the long run, your wisdom and experience will become one of your greatest assets. Both as a way to meet your own needs and to help others.

Practice SELF-CARE; avoid becoming overwhelmed (or taken advantage of,) by taking time for yourself. Give yourself permission to do what you enjoy. Demands from other people can wait! 

Accept that you can’t do everything for everyone, and that you can’t give to others when you’re empty inside.

EXPRESS your creative side; cultivate outlets for creative self-expression. Explore music, art, writing, poetry etc. Build a business. Be artistic (this is about the art of being a woman, you know!) Put your ideas into physical form.


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6 comments:

  1. I love this post! But I have a question Melina, how does a woman be feminine when she seems to be very athletic?

    A perfect example is the Greek Goddess, Artemis. I resemble more of her qualities, but correct me if I am wrong but she lacks some feminine qualities as well.

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  2. Hi lovely! Artemis was athletic, yes. And if you're athletic too, that doesn't mean that you can't be feminine.

    To the Greeks, beauty and femininity was a 'harmonious adjustment.' In other words, a woman needed to co-ordinate her body as an instrument of EXPRESSION, for her mind and spirit.

    Basically, if you're feminine, FEEL it, it will show!

    Furthermore, a softly-spoken voice, graceful gestures, a nice rhythm of movement.... in liquid suavity.... all of this is contributing toward BEING feminine.

    These things, to the Ancient Greeks, demonstrated beauty and femininity. They still do today :-)

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    1. Hi Melina,

      I like that you mentioned in this post that not having a fatherly figure leads ladies to find one elsewhere, as I know many gals in this situation. However, I find myself in the opposite position - I am best friends with my dad, but don't relate well with my mom. We have little in common, and I find that my lack of bonding with her has caused me to not feel comfortable in or accept myself in a feminine role. Though I am not sexual, I tend more toward female-romanticism. How do I reconcile this to accept my femininity while also retaining the things I love that are not as feminine? I have heard that having a female role-model can help.

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  3. Have you ever read Siddhartha?If so do you recall the figure of Kamala? I am a teenage girl and sometimes I feel like some traits of feminity aren't for me. In Kamala's case, the fact that there may be great desire for women who have make love or simply toy with many esteemed suitors. I always believed in the profoundness of reserving love to one person. I am so, so confused. Sometime femininity is so controversial for me. I have had a not so perfect life with males at times and I am no tomboy but I get a little distressed with sexuality. Is the thought of sexuality too early for me or...I am so confused!

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  4. No anon. I haven't read that. However, I too have always believed in the profoundness of reserving love for one person :-)

    And yes, at your age, thoughts, or a preoccupation with sexuality isn't wise.

    However, I don't know why you think femininity is controversial.

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  5. @ Dartarro21; join the club in having little in common with a mother!

    A female role-model is definitely needed in this regard. This can be a friend, an aunt or grandmother.

    Even a worthy female celebrity.

    I am lucky to have wonderful and deserving grandmother. :-)

    xox

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