Courtship And Dating School: Adaptability & Compatibility Chart - Part I

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Good afternoon, my feminine charmer! Perhaps you've met a man who you're getting to know and dating. You're attracted to each other, you enjoy going places and doing things together, you each have been feeling a growing romantic interest, and you wonder if this friendship is developing into the real thing.

How can you be sure of your own feelings toward a man? On what sound and sensible basis can you judge the personal qualities which each of you each possess and decide how adaptable and compatible you each may be to each other, and a life-time of love and intimacy?

This 'Adaptability And Compatibility Chart' will throw much light on your possibilities of happiness and harmonious association with the man you're currently dating and if your two lives should one day be joined in marriage.

Ideally you should read the chart together with the man who's courting you, each answering the questions honestly and discussing them fully. Such honest answers and free discussion may eliminate later misunderstandings, and prove to each of you, here and now, whether or not you're basically suited to one another and compatible.

Generally, the glamour of romance wears off in marriage, dove, but true love, which depends on ideal and worthy qualities of character, personality, temperament, physical appeal and general background, remains.

Wife School: The Importance Of Feminine And Seductive Sleepwear

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Good afternoon, angel! Besides the pretty and feminine at-home clothes I've mentioned in an earlier post, there are those items of at-home apparel made expressly for relaxation, romance, beauty and seduction, your boudoir garments. (Sleeping/lounging garments.) 

Did you know that the word 'boudoir' formerly meant a 'pouting-room?' In the medieval period a young lady was sent to her boudoir to get over the sulks, and the word is derived from the French verb 'bouder' meaning 'to pout.' 

From the appearance of some women at home, and in their intimate rooms and associations, it would seem to me that the husbands deserves the pouting room. 

As I've mentioned numerous times, men are predominantly visual creatures, including married men. So a wife should always want to look feminine and pretty for her husband, and suitable garments for lounging and sleeping are an important part of a wife's clothing needs. 

A third - or more of the twenty-four hours in the day - is spent wearing this type of clothing, dear one, and yet some wives give little thought to the selection of this part of our wardrobe. 

What qualities should a wife look for in feminine sleeping garments, and in robes or dressing gowns to wear over them? Comfort comes first and, after that, ease of care, durability, and becomingness are important. 

Finishing School Lesson: How To Be A Charming Woman: Friendship

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Good afternoon, cupcake! In this online charm and finishing school lesson we are going to learn about how to be a charming woman by studying friendliness.  I do hope you find the lesson useful. *Smile*

There's nothing so important to a high value woman as her choice of friendships; for it both reflects character and affects it. 

A woman who wants worthy friends must show herself as a friendly, charming and high value person. Furthermore, the only way for her to make friends is to be a friend.

Practically every woman worth her salt desire good friendships, but is every woman successful in making and keeping friends? An early Greek philosopher and poet said: "It is a good thing to be rich, and a good thing to be strong, but it is a better thing to be beloved of many friends."

I'm sure you'll agree with me, dove, when I say that we all react differently to different people. With some people we feel enlivened and happy, with some we are subdued. To some we have much to give, from others we receive more than we can possibly repay. 

The sum total of what we are as individuals is made up of our own mental/spiritual endowment plus the effect on us of our own personal experiences and relationships.

Some women form friendships with other people very slowly. Perhaps these are the women who need friends the most, for they're naturally shy, retiring and undemonstrative, and they can easily become too shut in with themselves. 

The Art Of Making Friends

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Good morning, my darling dove! Every woman worth her salt values her friends, and may even test her own character by the personality traits of her friends. *Smile*

With what kind of friends do you feel most at home and comfortable with? Do you feel most at home and comfortable with gal pals who are feminine like you are, or who have other things in common with you? 

Do you feel at home with those men and women who are quiet and sedate, or with those who make their presence felt everywhere? 

In the mirror of your friendships you may also behold yourself. Are you a thoughtful and generous woman, cupcake? Then you can know yourself through your friends, for by evaluating the friendship experiences you share with them, you're recognizing and developing your own self.

Naturally a woman can see herself in her best gal pals and male friends, but she must be careful not to lose herself - her personality and her originality - in her friends,  or become a 'copy' of them. 

As an individual a high value woman should be able to stand alone as a woman, and have her own thoughts and ways of doing things.

In addition, without true friendships with worthy individuals, a woman can hardly expect to find her niche among other individuals. True friendships not only give zest to a high value woman's life, but they prepare her to participate cooperatively and more willingly in life's more serious affairs.

Masculine And Feminine Polarity & Masculinity Vs Femininity

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Good afternoon, my feminine lovely!  As the STRENGTH of a magnet depends on the intensity of two opposite poles, so the perfection of human character and spirituality depends on the distinct rationality or masculinity of a man, and the distinct emotional activity or femininity of a woman. *Smile*

Like the two opposite poles of a magnetic bar, a man and woman in a relationship are the mutual sustainers of each other's condition - the man of the woman's love, support and submission (feminine aspect,) and the woman of the man's love, leadership and wisdom (masculine aspect.) 

In addition, a man becomes more truly masculine and rational in a relationship - and gains more drive and direction - as a woman becomes more truly feminine. But if that same man was to become effeminate in his nature, the woman would not only lose the former sense of direction she previously had gained from him, but her attraction for him.

In that same relationship, if a woman suddenly became more masculine in her nature, both she and her man would not only lose the proper polarity and magnetism (attraction) in their relationship, but the positive influence they should be exerting on each other as a masculine man and a feminine woman. 

The fact is, dove, that in male-female relationships each sexual pole of life is either strengthened or weakened by the other. Furthermore, the sexual attraction between a man and a woman - or lack thereof - depends on the degree of polarity (the opposing masculine and feminine aspects and energy) that's flowing between them. 

The more DIFFERENT a man and a woman are to each other in nature - in regards to their masculine and feminine aspects - the more sexually attracted to each other they'll be, as well as magnetized by each other. 

Wife School: The Art Of Endearment

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Good evening, dear one! The power to love and nurture is truly the greatest gift that God has given to women. This feminine power isn't expressed in love of self or selfishness. Always, it reaches outward, to someone else, generating faith, hope, and courage. 

Always, a real woman's love for her man encourages and gives him strength, confidence and the will to work and sacrifice for another without selfishness, greed or envy. And always, a real woman's love serves to drive out the negative forces of hate, revenge and despair in her man's life.

God not only gave women the power of love to help us live in harmony with our husbands, but He vastly increased its strength when He endowed man and woman with the power of sexual attraction. 

It's only natural that as a feminine woman you're deeply interested in love and its possibilities for your future. This is a natural and wholesome interest for a woman, because love is such a mighty force in this life, and because it's so vast and often mysterious. 

Moreover, happiness and success are so directly dependent on a woman's ability to love. As a 'hopeful romantic' - not a 'hopeless romantic' as a friend pointed out to me yesterday when we were chatting on Skype - I'll always continue to be fascinated with its power. *Smile*

The first commandment of holding a husband is to love him. Love will develop those qualities in a woman that make for ideal womanliness and femininity, dove. Moreover, the woman who loves a man, and whose love is reciprocated, naturally radiates good will, optimism, health and contentment, wherever she is, and makes her a useful and valuable person. 

When true love resides in a woman's heart there exists little selfishness, ingratitude, disloyalty or malice. 

The Intuitive, Feminine And Submissive Woman

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Good evening  dove! The fact that there's nothing more detrimental to feminine charm or womanliness than an unfeminine, bossy, and dominant female is no secret to men of the more traditional and chivalrous character. 

At the very least the presence of a woman is supposed to stir a man's sentimental and protective side with her feminine mystique, but in this world of egalitarianism and feminism only detached competence is expected of her. 

Such unfeminine and non-submissive women don't attract the high value and worthy men (true alpha males and traditional family men) on the deeper and more personal level of life. Rather, it's the submissive and dependent woman of the very feminine character who intuitively appeals to the traditional and chivalrous male.

According to folk tales the gallant hero or strong knight who rescues a damsel in distress usually falls in love with her and they live happily ever after. Using the same masculine-feminine/strong-weak dynamic the schoolgirl will pretend to be ignorant just to give her boyfriend a chance to show how smart he is. 

Moreover, a tearful girl in a historical man-to-woman situation gets the immediate attention of every male in the vicinity - especially if she's feminine and pretty. *Wink* And even in the animal kingdom, coyness, shyness and mock flight in the female give the male a chance to show off, exhibit strength, and prove his persistence, dominance and aggressiveness. 

The Very Feminine Woman: Ultra-Feminine Appearance

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Good afternoon, angel! The woman with a ultra-feminine personality, the soft, passive and submissive type of woman with a suggestion of girlishness and gentleness, should dress to emphasize her delicate and dainty charm. 

If the very feminine woman wears clothes that are too forceful, too strong, and too striking, her personality is submerged and weakened. It's her responsibility, therefore, to emphasize her soft, feminine quality - neither submerging it or lessening its beauty - by apparel totally lacking in distinction and character.

Color is especially important to the very feminine woman with a soft and gentle personality. If she wears dull, drab and uninteresting colors, she herself, with her none too-forceful or striking personality, may become insignificant in appearance and lacking in distinction. 

If the very feminine woman wears colors of a subtle and softened intensity, with interesting arrangements of unusual, but not too-bold or striking color harmonies, she gains in feminine distinction and charm. 

However, dove, generally lacking vivid and forceful coloring herself, the ultra-feminine woman mustn't choose colors so neutral that they will give her a monotonous appearance to the combined colorings of the outfit and herself.

Uber-Femininity: Romantic And Feminine Style

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Good afternoon, my darling dove! The romantic feminine style is a uber-feminine look, and an expression of femininity and sophistication combined. The word 'romantic' is used to describe this type which is distinguished by unusual beauty and noticeable feminine appeal. 

The romantic and feminine type of woman is the type most often cast as the romantic lead or chosen as the queen in beauty contests. This lady, like the dramatic type, is a sophisticate and enjoys dramatizing her feminine charms.

The romantic and feminine woman is also an intermediate or composite of Yang and Yin. Because of her feminine beauty and charm her Yin qualities dominate, but the Yang quality of exaggeration or sophistication differentiates her from the ingenue which she resembles in
some ways. 

A typical gypsy quality is evident in some women who fit into the romantic classification. The woman who's a typical example of the romantic is apt to be an actress or model, or one who could easily fill these roles. 

Because of her sophistication this type appears to be inconsistent with most young women. However, beauty of features, particularly of the eyes and mouth, long, lustrous lovely hair, or a perfect figure will give a degree of this romantic quality to any woman.

When this romantic quality is present it may be accented subtly in line, texture or color, making an outfit or dress more flattering.

Why Unmarried Women Should NOT Be Having Pre-Marital Sex

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Good morning, my feminine lovely! A feminine and high value woman has excellent chances for meeting any number of desirable and high value men. Nevertheless, a single woman on the lookout for a potential husband shouldn't ever be the victim of limitations in the selection of her mate. 

While it's true that there are men everywhere, there are many men of low value who make indecent demands of a more intimate nature on women, and who try to take sexual liberties with them. 

If you want to go out in order to meet eligible men for marriage, and to have a good time, and such men of lower value are the only ones available, then it might seem as though you would have to live up to your end of the bargain and allow the liberties. 

But, dove, I'm hoping you're a smart, sensible and well-balanced woman with higher standards and expectations from a man than that! 

Now, in all seriousness, I'm going to ask you to answer the following question for yourself: 

Are all the temporary good times you might have with a man (unmarried sex) worth cheapening yourself in your own estimation? 

I think you would be paying a very high premium for those so-called 'good times' that many egalitarian men and women are having today. 

How To Be Feminine To Attract High Value Men For Marriage - Part I

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Good afternoon, lovely! Many women stumble on to this blog searching for tips on how to be feminine to attract men. 

The femininity and dating niche for feminine women and masculine men is in hot demand, and being worked to the limit. That being said, I don't see the demand lessening any time soon. *Smile*

Personally, I'm convinced that your single high value man (true alpha male) is only looking for a feminine and high value woman to attract him for marriage. 

Nevertheless, the average man doesn't want to be charmed into marriage by some 'personality-plus' unfeminine and dominant girl who most likely will turn out to be more of a liability than an asset.

Believe it or not, most of the women of today are well schooled in the art of 'How To Attract A Guy For Three Months Before He Loses Interest' instead of 'How To Be Feminine To Attract High Value Men For Marriage.' 

These women spend their money on clothes and makeup, and all things 'seductive,' in the hopes to attract a man's attention, but have no interest in how to be genuinely feminine,  refined, or have any interest in interest in psychology and personality courses.

A woman's superfluous means to attract men, will, for the most part, merely supply outward baits to lure the green, unsuspecting victims, instead of occupying her time learning to how to cultivate uber-femininity, charm, mystique, elegance, substance, and a knowledge of all things beneficial to a woman of excellence.

A woman of excellence educates herself in all the feminine arts at a woman's disposal to attract high value men, as well as how to cook meals tasty and nutritious meals for her future family, how to run a household efficiently and economically, and how to raise a family.

Finishing School Lesson: How To Judge Design Quality

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Good afternoon, doll! Every woman - whether she has have studied fashion design or not - has formed opinions, and consciously or subconsciously rated fashion designs as to their quality and excellence. 

It's helpful to organize one's thinking about design quality by grouping the various characteristics found in fashion design under three or four general classifications. 

Rather than to designate an outfit, costume or ensemble as simply 'acceptable' or 'unacceptable,' or even as 'excellent,' 'good,' 'fair' or 'poor,' it seems preferable to recognize that there are acceptable designs of varying degrees of excellence.

Some garments appear to be on the borderline between one classification and another. At times the degrees of difference in design quality may rest on the workmanship, quality and the color and design of the fabric selected, or on the suitability of the garment to a particular situation.

Every effort should be made to avoid limiting judgment to personal prejudices so that conclusions will be reached on fair and unbiased judgment. The words 'distinctive,' 'classic,' 'ordinary' and 'poor' have been selected as descriptive of four different qualities of design. 

Finishing School Lesson: Feminine Style And Fashion

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Good afternoon, my feminine charmer! An uber-feminine woman is a woman  who senses what's beautiful, womanly, stylish, fashionable and appropriate in clothing , shoes and accessories. 

In other words she's an individual with good taste, who studies feminine style and fashion, and her own personal characteristics to determine which fashions seem to belong to her.  *Smile*

The uber-feminine woman doesn't concern herself particularly with what's new, but rather what in the new and the old which will express her own feminine personality and her role in life.

The modern well-dressed and stylish/fashionable woman of today chooses clothing and accessories which reflects contemporary standards. Such a woman's rejecting over the more elaborate fussy garments as a relic of an earlier Victorian way of life. 

She selects instead well cut functional garments which feature beauty of line and fabric.

How To Be A Feminine Woman Of Excellence: Education, Learning And Study

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Good morning, my darling dear one! I believe that a feminine woman's learning should never stop. It isn't something to be tucked away like moth balls with a diploma. Feminine minds have coming appetites. After receiving a little they always crave more! *Smile*

As a woman of excellence, you should have a desire not only to know more, but to acquire more accurate knowledge. The quality of learning material does matter. And your mind will be as proficient in amassing useless, trivial and false material as in accumulating worth-while information. 

Of course as an aspiring woman of excellence you realize that your education isn't ended when you get a diploma, whether from grammar school, high school, college or advanced schools of learning. It has only begun! 

There always has to be a general house-cleaning in a woman's life. You have to discard a great many absurd notions which have sneaked into the practice of living. You have to replace theories, regardless of how tempting they may sound, with practical truths and realities.

You're never too young or old to learn, dove!

Your learning can depend on the amount of available time you have, the place where you live, your individual inclinations - but not on your age! Learning, like taxes, can go on and on- to the very end of the chapter. 

Wife School: What Your Husband Wants

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Good morning, my feminine charmer! In today's 'wife school' lesson we are going to be learning what a husband expects from his wife, and more feminine secrets to a happy and mutually satisfying and fulfilling marriage.

Wife School: What Your Husband Wants: A Keeper Of Secrets

According to the portrait of the ideal wife given in the Book Of Proverbs in the Bible, a husband must feel that he can safely trust his wife. Everything hinges on a husband's trust in a wife, dove, and that your husband will be able to trust you - implicitly. 

This means that:

You'll not tell anyone your husband's secrets 

You'll not discuss your husband's imperfection and faults with your confidantes

You'll be faithful and careful in the administration of your husband's money

You'll be absolutely faithful and monogamous in your marriage, and guileless in your relationships with all other men

The surest way to forfeit a man's heart and  love is to be untrustworthy as a wife, and to be unfaithful to him, cupcake. The surest way to keep your husband's love, however, is to lock up his words and secrets as in a golden casket, giving the key to none, but wearing it close to your heart. 

Happy is a husband who can safely trust his wife!

He'll always have a quiet sheltered haven in which to relax. And happy is the wife who knows how to listen, how to elicit, and how to keep her husband's secrets! Such a wife will do her husband good, and not evil, all the days of her life.